I have a client who doesn’t like school. Oh, wait. I have many clients who don’t like school.
This client (meaning most of my clients) has good grades, studies ok, and wants to have straight As. Her goal for next year is to have the highest A possible in all classes.
She also thinks school is a waste of time, a necessity, and boring.
Do you see the problem? I know you hear it at home, but do you see it?
She wants one thing, but the very thing she wants, she doesn’t like.
No wonder we all decide that tweens and teens are extreme and confusing!
I mean, we adults, are NEVER like that.
We don’t want to lose weight, but also hate the gym.
We don’t want to be happy at our jobs, but talk about how bad our boss is.
We don’t want to be on time, and then say that being late is “just who we are”.
Nope. I’ve never said those things. (You know I’m kidding, right?)
As much as we’d like to only see what our kids are going through as just being drama, it’s also what we struggle with.
Why? It’s our human brain.
It’s cognitive dissonance – when one’s ideas, beliefs, behaviors are contradictory.
Your kids are just beginning to really learn what it is and what to do when it happens.
Cognitive dissonance is a great opportunity for growth as long as you are bringing attention to it to your mind.
Once your brain becomes aware of it, it has a much better chance of reconciling the two.
Awareness is the first step.
And I’ll be talking next steps for this in my Back To School meeting for parents of tweens & teens on the 23rd. More details to come!