So I honestly am making up the name of this strategy. If you read this and can come up with a better name, by all means, let me know. Until then, I’m naming it “Willing To Lose”.
My coach has this great example of proving whether or not her clients are believing that they are really going to make their goal happen, that they are 100% all in.
Let’s go with a weight goal – losing 6 lbs this month. Just a tad outside my comfort zone but not ridiculously out of the question.
I’m going to have the belief: Oh, yeah, I’m going to lose 6 lbs this month. No problem.
My actions are that I’m eating bread once a week, no sugar, and exercising twice a week.
And after two weeks, I only lose two pounds.
I start panicking or thinking I’m doing something wrong or wasting my time.
At this point, I’m completely doubting whether or not I’m going to hit my goal.
My coach will say to me – are you willing to pay me $10,000 if you don’t hit your goal?
And because I’m doubting, I’m not willing to lose $10,000 so I am going to say ‘HAIL’ no.
I’m not really all in. I’m full of doubt and fear, not determination and focus.
Do you see this?
A person who is ALL IN is going to say – yes. I am going to to do whatever it takes to lose the other four pounds. This is possible. It is happening. I can say yes I’ll pay you because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am going to show up for myself. I am going to make it happen. I am not willing to lose.
What is your goal? Like a specific real goal.
Are you willing to pay me $10,000 if you don’t hit it? Don’t play not to lose. Play to win.