How is it possible to go all in when you want to, but you also really don’t want to?
Like, you want to go all in with your workout routine, but you’re not. You keep skipping the gym and hanging out with your dogs instead.
Or you want to go all in with organizing your house, but you’re not. You keep scrolling through Facebook and watching Marie Kondo on Netflix. (Which is at least on the subject of organizing)
For teens, it could be getting straight A’s or getting on the dance team or getting extra money to buy more Pops or Adidas shoes that they otherwise would not be allowed to buy.
Whatever it is, let’s go all in. This is how.
Step 1 – Be specific
Like real specific. I’m working out 5 times every week for this month. I’m cleaning out the kitchen pantry by Friday. I’m getting an A on all tests this quarter. I’m making $100 this week to buy my Abraham Lincoln Pop.
Write it down.
Step 2 – Write down your excuses
Write down ALL of your excuses and doubts that are going to come up and then what you’ll need to tell your brain. You’re the boss of your brain. So I need for you to act like a boss.
Example: I’m going to be tired from not sleeping because of our broken A/C so I may skip working out those days it’s broken (excuse). No, you are going to the freaking gym. I will have more energy during the day and be able to sleep better that night (Brain Boss talking)
Other excuses: I don’t have time; I am so tired; the kids need me to stay home; my husband won’t feel loved; I need to do more at home (and less for me).
Step 3 – Don’t judge your excuses.
Seriously. Don’t do it. Just be like ‘oh, that’s my self-doubt. That’s my excuse to get out of it. It’s kinda like my teen who is telling me she has a sore throat when in reality she has a math test.’ See? It’s just doing it’s job. Be like ‘good job, brain’.
And then do what you committed to doing anyway.
Step 4 – Reflect on your mind AND your action.
Ask yourself what worked, what didn’t work, what would I do differently at the end of each day with both your thought work AND your actions. Your mind is the gas fueling your actions so you need to take a look at that too. You don’t want to be ignoring the fact that you’re putting some cheap stuff into the actions and that’s what is really causing the poor results, right? No. Once you know it’s the cheap gas from the unmarked gas station down the street that has shady characters hanging around all the time causing your car to leap forward in the middle of traffic for no apparent reason, you’re going to look for the next fancy BP to fill your car up with. Same with your mind. Reflect on your mind and actions.
And that is it, friends. Actually DO this work. When I say ‘write’, I mean write. it. out. What we want to do is just do it in our minds and count it like we did it. I know this because I do this ALL the time. But this is like building a muscle. Your mental muscle of going all in. So in order to build it up, you must exercise it.
This is your work. The how.
Go all in.