Stop thinking “This Is Who I Am”.
Start thinking “Who Do I Want To Become?”
I heard these words from a 17 year old motivational millionaire.
You see he used to believe he was not confident and couldn’t speak in front of people. He just got paid $60,000 to speak for an hour in front of thousands of people.
But more importantly, he says that numerous people have told him after a speech that they had been thinking about suicide and because of his speech, they were no longer going to kill themselves.
Caleb said – If I had just said “I am not a speaker. I am not a confident person” and never became the confident speaker I am, those people might have taken their lives.
He wasn’t okay with just saying “This is who I am.”
These are ones I’ve heard from friends & family lately. These are who you just BELIEVE you are. It’s not actually a fact. Which means you can change your belief.
“I am just a control freak.”“I am a people pleaser.”“I am a late person.”“I am an introvert.”“I am a 3 on the Enneagram.”“I just like food.”“I am busy.”“I am not disciplined.”“I am just an anxious person.”“I am just laid-back.”“I don’t really have goals.”“I don’t belong.”
This is a fixed mindset. A static mindset. A static, fixed person doesn’t change or grow.
A growth mindset starts working on changing their mind. To change their life.
- “I can learn to let go of control. I can let go of control. I don’t have to have control.”
- “It’s possible to like food and say no to a brownie. I can say no to a brownie. I want to say no to a brownie. I will say no.”
- “I can learn to be on time. I can be on time. I will do everything I can to be on time. I am on time.”
What I just shared with you is a tool called Ladder Thoughts that I teach my clients to use to grow from one belief to another. You baby step your way to a new belief.
However, ladder thoughts don’t just magically give you a new mindset.
You have to PRACTICE believing each one. Writing them, listening to them, reading them, visualizing them, saying them to yourself. Every day.
This is unbelievable make-your-life-better-and-grow gold!!
Questions to ask yourself (Caleb’s), ladder thoughts, and how to practice it.
Friends – Start doing these three things today! Let me know if you have any questions I can help answer!
XO – Natalie