We’ve all had times in our life when it seems as if nothing is going right, God is absent, and you’re waiting for something to change.
If there’s anything I’ve learned through recessions, heartbreaks, loneliness, and career turmoil, I’ve learned that I always have the choice to love my life in the meantime. Right now. As it is. With all of it’s messiness.
In fact, I’d go so far to say that as I learned to love my life as it is, I started figuring out the life I wanted to have. And things started happening that got me the life I wanted. Things started to change.
So I have four things you can do to love your life in the meantime. I’m not going to say while you wait because to me, that means you sit around waiting for someone to give you what you want. Like you’re waiting for it to happen to you. Your life doesn’t happen to you. But that’s for another post…
Being grateful is the most important and powerful way to start loving your life. Write a list every day. Think it & feel it. Be grateful for what you DO have. And be grateful for what is to come. For the future life you are making. For the prayers to be answered. There’s absolutely no harm in being grateful ahead of time. It’s practicing belief.
Own Your Life
Owning your life is super empowering. You also start to see how it can change. When you take 100% ownership and responsibility for where you’re at, you begin to see how you’re responsible for creating it. I’m not talking about being let go from a job or being broken up with. But you can own your response to these things. Are you choosing to dwell in the past? Are you choosing to think negatively about your old work or your future options? Did you choose guys that you know aren’t long-term material? Did you choose a guy who walked all over you? As you own your life and your choices, you can begin to accept it and love it for what it is. (Doesn’t mean you don’t change it though!)
Make a List
Make a list of all the things you can control. Then make a list of all the things you can’t. Why? Because some of us need to be reminded we can’t control the Coronavirus. But we can control how often we wash our hands, our mindset, our feelings. Most of us have more control than we think. I know I stayed in a job for years thinking it was out of my control. I used God as a scapegoat. Once I realized I had a major part in my life, I had the courage to switch careers. Knowing what you can and cannot control is super empowering and something else to be grateful for!
Write a story
Write a story of your life where you are the leading lady, the hero. That means you have to force your brain to see all good things and how could be the hero of it. Then write (or add chapters) the story of you being the leading lady of right now and her future. How does she show up in today’s current circumstances? What does she think about herself? What does she decide to change in her life? What does she keep? Really write a story where you show up right now as the leading lady. Because you are.
Loving your life does not always mean you love everything about it. It doesn’t even mean that you love all the things in it – your travel, parties, job.
It’s about loving what is. Unconditional love. And from that, being empowered to make the changes you do want.