Caught Between Doing Good and Being Ambitious

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt caught between two good things when trying to make a decision. 

I know I’m not the only one.   

  • We’re not sure what to do in our relationships. (Do we break up or do we stay because they are a good person?)
  • We’re not sure what to do for our careers.
  • We’re super confused over what to eat since there are 8,000 diets out there.  
  • We’re definitely confused about how to solve even the smallest of problems.

And this is worse for those of us who are the smart, sensitive souls that want to do good in the world and want to reach for the stars, live out our dreams, and make an impact in the world. We feel off balance and caught between doing good and being ambitious.

What I have learned and what I teach my clients is this.  

Ambition doesn’t mean you have to be selfish.  

Doing good doesn’t mean you ignore who you are and you say yes to everything and everybody.  

But we let our brains believe that these two things are separate.  We let our brains stay in confusion.  

What happens when we’re confused?  The worst thing is that we waste time getting to the dreams, goals and the good we want to see in the world.

We are literally keeping ourselves from doing the good and reaching for the stars because we stay stuck in confusion.    

I was confused.  I was confused on my “niche”.  My people. 

The great thing I did, though, which I also teach my clients, is that I took action even when I was confused.  I tried out weight loss for teachers.  Then teacher burnout.  Then teen girls.  

Each one of them was almost there, but not quite.  And when I would let myself be confused, I wasted the time I could have helped more women make amazing life changes.

Who I have worked with the most and have had the greatest results are the smart, sensitive high-achieving women (and teen girls) who hold back because of their self-doubt, self-critical thoughts, worry, perfectionism, and emotions.  

The ones people say “she’s just too sensitive”.  She takes things personally.  She feels guilty a lot.  She worries a lot about others.  She doesn’t like to have attention.  She doesn’t like to be the center of attention.  She agrees with everyone.  

These women – and teen girls – dim their light.  They cover their sensitive, hard-working, big-dreaming souls in order to make sure all around them are okay.  

But they’re not okay.  

They’re tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, confused, ignored, and empty.  

They want to speak up but they don’t know how.  

They believe they don’t deserve to be front and center.  

They don’t believe that a nice girl like them can get the corner office.  

Well, I’m here to tell them -THEY CAN.  

They can get their dreams, do-good, AND be the sensitive power that the world desperately needs.  

If you are tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, confused, ignored, and empty, are you showing up how you want to in the world?  Are you giving your best?  

I know I wasn’t.  

I did something about it.   

When nothing changes, nothing changes.  

Here’s your chance to change.  

DM me right now or email me at nataliewilsoncoaching@gmail.com and let’s start that change.  

It’s possible to get the corner office, get the guy, and still be the smart, sensitive soul doing good in the world.  

Be Front and Centered.  

Questions To Ask To Help Your Brain Commit

The way you do one thing is the way you do anything.  That’s what my coach tells me. 

This hit me like a whiff of really strong perfume. Eyes opened!

You see, I have always done pretty well with my weight, my exercise, my finances and even my time – I could coast just above average.  A solid B+/A-.

This week, I started thinking. I ignore my alarm. I hit the snooze button. I choose to do one more thing in the ten minutes I “think” I have which creates me being late.

And if what my coach says is true, I lack commitment to my schedule, which means I also don’t commit to my financial budget or my food plan. 

Ugh. I had a bad feeling this was legit.

Yep, I “cheat” here and there with my budget and food too, and since I know how to just do enough, I fluctuate 2-4 lbs and never bounce checks.

I am technically late to things, but rarely am late to where I miss the beginning of things which don’t really “count”. “No harm done”.

Even when I was in college, I rarely studied and got a solid A-. In high school, I rarely studied, and I was top 15%, not top 5%.

Yep, this is legit.

I realize I had this thought ‘Why push myself and go ALL IN?’ I was coasting very well with little commitment and little effort.

And then I thought – What if I went ALL IN?  What if I committed to doing it 100%?  What would my results look like?  What would I create for myself?  Who would I become?  

WhenI realized this, my mind WAS BLOWN. I have been living my life coasting. From teen to 40. Not really committing to much and also not really shining. I’ve been holding myself back.

So I immediately decided my schedule was where I could really transform. Schedule my day, honor my commitments, show up for myself and others. And look out for who I am becoming!

Finishing up week one and have already blown my mind. I was EARLY to lunch with a friend. I did EVERYTHING on my schedule, down to the exact podcast I wrote I’d listen to.

ALL IN.

What about you? What if you showed up 100% in your life even if it was just ONE thing? You’d blow your mind, wouldn’t you?

Share this with your teen. Challenge them to go ALL IN in just one thing.

Why are they holding themselves back at all? Why did they pick the goal they picked? Who do they want to become as they do it? What do they want to create by going ALL IN? What do they see as the obstacles and challenges? How can they plan to overcome these?

They can start now. So can you.

Y’all. Let’s GO ALL IN. I’m going with you!