I stepped into the mammogram room. Dark, cold, and empty. Hallow. Kind of how I felt inside.
It was sadness mixed with disappointment mixed with confusion.
This wasn’t how I thought this part of my life would go. 42. No kids. Getting a mammogram, not an ultrasound. It’s not that I didn’t think I’d ever have a mammogram. I just thought I’d be a mom when I did.
The tears sprang up. I willed them to stay in as I listened to the nurse.
…The thing is…life is 50 – 50. For everyone. 50% positive and 50% negative.
And what most of us do, and what I used to do, is spend the the 50% negative making it worse. We resist it, dwell in it, talk about it, worry about it, ignore it and all the while, we steal more time from the positive things in our life.
When the 50% negative comes, we act like it shouldn’t be there.
For me, I used to swing from letting my emotions run me to shoving them in a closet somewhere, pulling up my bootstraps, and just moving on.
Neither are healthy and neither help me become who I want to be.
So when I stumbled across LCS, I learned about this concept of 50/50. I learned about accepting my feelings. And I learned how to not let them control me.
I learned how to feel them so I didn’t let it ruin my day. I didn’t stifle them with a drink, or food, or retail therapy. I learned that the hallow feeling is just that. A hallow feeling.
So after the doctor appointment, as I got in my car and shut the door, I just let the tears fall and I let myself feel sad and disappointed and confused.
I thought about how I was feeling. I thought about why I was feeling that way. And just like that, after a few minutes, it went away.
I let it go in a healthy way.
A lot of women I know ignore, avoid, or resist their feelings. They shove their feelings on a shelf so they can deal with the moment in front of them, but they never go back or learn how to manage the thoughts causing the feeling. They cling to tears, wine, food, “prayer” or their to-do list. They feel guilt or anxiety or disappointment and turn to Facebook or cleaning the kitchen.
That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about really feeling it, accepting it, letting it go, and then picking new thoughts and feelings.
That’s where the power is.
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P.S. My life is also 50% positive and THAT 50% is also not how I thought it would be. Ten years ago I didn’t imagine starting my own business, working from home, having flexible hours, being a dream dog mom, traveling with my husband, and coaching amazing women across the country. Even the thought “it’s not how I thought it’d be” goes both ways!