What was the worst decision you ever made? I know what mine is.
It was not moving to Mexico after my first year of teaching. I thought I’d never find love there. I was “getting older” (27) and didn’t want to miss out. And of course, I missed out on living overseas, becoming fluent in Spanish, and ended up marrying at 37.
It might have cost me thousands of dollars lost in jobs I could have had returning fluent in both languages. It probably cost me lots of other things.
I could tell you I said no because I had a roommate. Or because I had a job opportunity paying a lot more money in another school system. Or because I was single.
All of these things are “true”. But I’m leaving out this part: I made the decision. It was my responsibility. I own that decision. It was not my roommate or the job or me being single that decided. It was me.
Most ppl think bad decisions were bad because of something or someone else. They’re never bad because fo something or someone else. They’re bad because we decide they are.
Not moving could equally have been a great decision. Where I was moving was a dangerous part of Mexico. I made more money, at least that year, at the school in the states. I ended up working for that system for 10 years.
These two things are true no matter what decision you make. – we both make the decision and then we decide what we want to think about it. If I want to see it as a regret, I can. But I advise my clients to minimize those. Think of decisions as either ones you win from or ones you learn from. Because spending a lot of time believing it was the worst decision for me doesn’t do me any good. Except to tell this story.
What does do me good is learning from it. I learned to own my decisions. I learned not to put my life on hold for something I think “might” happen. I learned that being fluent is worth more than just money.
So as you start becoming a more powerful decision maker, consider the story you want to tell. Take ownership for the decisions you make in the story. And then decide if you don’t win from the decision, you can learn from it.
The Three Things Powerful Decision Makers Do
- Take ownership for their decision
- Decide what they want to think about the decision
- Learn from the decision
If you want to learn to become more powerful decision maker and live the story you believe you were created for, let’s talk about how I can help you do both. Email me at Natalie@nataliewilsoncoaching.com.