Caught Between Doing Good and Being Ambitious

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt caught between two good things when trying to make a decision. 

I know I’m not the only one.   

  • We’re not sure what to do in our relationships. (Do we break up or do we stay because they are a good person?)
  • We’re not sure what to do for our careers.
  • We’re super confused over what to eat since there are 8,000 diets out there.  
  • We’re definitely confused about how to solve even the smallest of problems.

And this is worse for those of us who are the smart, sensitive souls that want to do good in the world and want to reach for the stars, live out our dreams, and make an impact in the world. We feel off balance and caught between doing good and being ambitious.

What I have learned and what I teach my clients is this.  

Ambition doesn’t mean you have to be selfish.  

Doing good doesn’t mean you ignore who you are and you say yes to everything and everybody.  

But we let our brains believe that these two things are separate.  We let our brains stay in confusion.  

What happens when we’re confused?  The worst thing is that we waste time getting to the dreams, goals and the good we want to see in the world.

We are literally keeping ourselves from doing the good and reaching for the stars because we stay stuck in confusion.    

I was confused.  I was confused on my “niche”.  My people. 

The great thing I did, though, which I also teach my clients, is that I took action even when I was confused.  I tried out weight loss for teachers.  Then teacher burnout.  Then teen girls.  

Each one of them was almost there, but not quite.  And when I would let myself be confused, I wasted the time I could have helped more women make amazing life changes.

Who I have worked with the most and have had the greatest results are the smart, sensitive high-achieving women (and teen girls) who hold back because of their self-doubt, self-critical thoughts, worry, perfectionism, and emotions.  

The ones people say “she’s just too sensitive”.  She takes things personally.  She feels guilty a lot.  She worries a lot about others.  She doesn’t like to have attention.  She doesn’t like to be the center of attention.  She agrees with everyone.  

These women – and teen girls – dim their light.  They cover their sensitive, hard-working, big-dreaming souls in order to make sure all around them are okay.  

But they’re not okay.  

They’re tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, confused, ignored, and empty.  

They want to speak up but they don’t know how.  

They believe they don’t deserve to be front and center.  

They don’t believe that a nice girl like them can get the corner office.  

Well, I’m here to tell them -THEY CAN.  

They can get their dreams, do-good, AND be the sensitive power that the world desperately needs.  

If you are tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, confused, ignored, and empty, are you showing up how you want to in the world?  Are you giving your best?  

I know I wasn’t.  

I did something about it.   

When nothing changes, nothing changes.  

Here’s your chance to change.  

DM me right now or email me at nataliewilsoncoaching@gmail.com and let’s start that change.  

It’s possible to get the corner office, get the guy, and still be the smart, sensitive soul doing good in the world.  

Be Front and Centered.  

If You Think Your Decisions Aren’t Impacting Others, Think Again

Do you know HOW many people are impacted by your choices?  Like really.  

Think About It.  

I just got off the phone with a client who was making a job decision and she brought up how thankful she was that I had the courage to pursue being a life coach.  

She said from that I am now helping her see her brain and live courageously and make hard job decisions confidently.  

So from my one decision, I am helping her and her decision which will then impact the lives of almost 100 children this year.  100 children who desperately need her to love them, encourage them, teach them how to do hard things, and achieve what is possible in their lives. 

They need her to show them what is impossible for their life.  And then make it possible.

What is the residual impact of your decisions? Whose lives are your ripples touching?

Who is impacted by your decisions?  Not just your family and friends.  Who could be impacted that you don’t even know?  

If you decide to get control of your finances and turn down all the cute clothes you want and drinks to drink and food to eat, it doesn’t just impact your wallet.  

It impacts the wallet of your parents, spouse, and friends because you wouldn’t have to take from theirs.  Now all of you have more money.  

They might see that you’re an example of what is possible and decide to do the same thing; now they are impacting all of their circle.  

I’m not saying buying clothes, drinks, or food is bad.  But I don’t think we realize the impact of those small choices and WHO they impact.  

Sometimes it takes courage to turn down the Target run of a shirt, a lamp, and new office supplies.  And that’s okay.  Not all hard decisions are taking career leaps.

For me, I will never know the 100 children, but my life is touching theirs.  My one decision to pursue the uncomfortable and unknown career of being a life coach is impacting hundreds.  

What could your decisions be doing?